Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Ugh! Blogging is hard.. People pleasing is harder

Seems like every single time I sit down to write, I stare at a blank screen. There are so many funny things floating around in my head, and so many things I would like to say. However, being the non confrontational person I am I tend to censor myself (perhaps too much at times) because I am constantly worried of who I may offend.

I started writing this blog for me, and then I started to get readers and followers (which I am ecstatic about by the way) but with great power comes great responsibility, or shall I say "with readers comes responsibility... Being a super non confrontational person I try to avoid conflict at all costs. However, I feel like I have become so overly super censored and not myself that I have totally taken all the fun away from MY blog, and if it is not fun anymore, than I likely will not write (which is my biggest passion) so what is a girl to do? Do I risk being seen as rude, crude, and offensive or do I get burnt out and give up on my dreams because there is a possibility I could offend someone?

I am sure to most of you this seems like a total no brainer, but have I mentioned I am non confrontational? Not only that, but I am a people pleaser, it's a curse, and I hate it because so many times I feel like I am not being me. I have tried to reason that I am "doing it for the people" but then I feel like I am getting cheated. On the other hand if I write all the things that thrash around in my head I am positively positive someone won't like it, so here's my dilemma, do I please the people, and risk loosing me, or do I please me and risk loosing the people?

Well, I thought and thought and came to only one real conclusion, the world of blogging is crazy, and there are lots of crazy people in it (I mean I am here aren't I) and there is likely always going to be someone displeased with me, I mean that's part of life, and at some point I suppose I eventually have to learn to live with rejection... I mean I am a grown up now (unfortunately) so I guess it is time I put on my big girl panties. I am pretty positive that it is far better to be hated for who you are, then loved for who you aren't...

So here is my warning, from this point forward you may see all sorts of non people pleasing type blogs and newsflash at some point you may be offended by the things I say, well let me make this clear, it is not my intentions to purposely offend people, but hey... It's my blog, my dream and I am writing for ME... You've been given fair warning, but I hope you will all buckle in and stick around for what I can promise will be one crazy wild (but FUN) ride : )

12 comments:

  1. I'm the same way. I speak my mind and dont care of the outcome. If some dont like it then that's their fact. But the fact of being honest and straight forward should mean something. Now a days people want you to sugar coat and lie to them. That's no way to live. I'd rather have someone be straight forward and tell me the truth than to sugar coat something and lie to my fact. So be honest girl and be yourself. Dont hold back b/c of what people will think. Who cares. if you're happy that's all that matters.

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    1. Thank you, you are right if I am happy that is all that really matters, I mean I did start this blog for my own therapy anyway.

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  2. Be yourself. I have lost followers and really, they are not people I want around. Write for you, you will be amazed at the people that will stay because of it.

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    1. Thank you, you are right if I constantly have to worry about stepping on some one's toes or hurting some bodys feelings, these are people I probably do not want or need around

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  3. I agree with Whack Job! I tend to censor my writing as well. I get sick of it. I'm looking forward to reading your new "non-people pleasing" posts!! I'm with you either way! Personally, I think the funniest people who are the ones who Do Not hold back. Hard I know!
    Good luck.

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    1. Thank you for sticking around, I am looking forward to writing those non people pleasing posts LOL! It is exhausting trying to please people, and I have learned keeping people happy is hard, but pissing people off is easy LOL!

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  4. Totally hear you there. But, hey, it's YOUR space.. If people don't like it, they don't have to read it. I sometimes feel the same, trying to take everyone else's feelings into consideration; if I'm really in doubt, I keep the post in draft mode for a day, then I either post it, if I really need to get it off my chest, or edit/delete it, if I still have strong doubts. Love your writing, just be you!!

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    1. Thank you! you are right, this is my space and if people don't like it, then they don't have to read it, or they have the right to complain to LOL! Thank you so much for the compliment, I love your writing as well.

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  5. Hi,
    New follower from the blog hop please come follow me back :)
    http://lifewithtwinsandadramaqueen.com/

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    1. Thank you for visiting, I am following you now as well : )

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  6. I agree, writing for other people is tough. Do what makes you happy. Blogging is ultimately about the author at the end of the day. Ramble on...in your own voice, Mama...regardless of what it has to say!

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    1. Thank you for the encouragement, and support! Thank you also for visiting, I will continue to write in my voice, I am funnier that way any how LOL! Thanks for visiting : )

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