Recently I was browsing facebook (as I tend to do for mind numbing endless hours each day) and stumbled across an article entitled "Why French kids DON'T have ADHD " of course being ever so
So I began reading and within the first few sentences, my simple mind was all "yawn, can we do something else now?" Then something caught my eye. Did you know that in America 9% of all school aged children are diagnosed with AND medicated for ADHD, yet in France there are less than .5% diagnosed and even fewer medicated... What the?? I think maybe I should have been French.
Now I am sure a lot of you are already making your assumptions, you are blaming this on our government, vaccinations, school programs, etc... But wait! Because according to this article, we as parents have absolutely no one to blame, but OURSELVES. Can you believe it? We as parent actually have no one else to blame for this, we must take responsibility into our own hands YIKES!
That's a scary thought isn't it? I mean if there is no one else to blame, then that must mean that as parents, are single handily responsible for screwing up our own spawn without the help of anyone else. Imagine the horror in being forced to admit our own short comings as parents GASP!!!
Of course, this is NOT me trying to say that I am better than any other parent, because according to this article, my kids should be about as spastic, and misbehaved as they come, and trust me when I say that at times... umm... yeah... THEY ARE!
But there were a few points in this article that really made me stop and go hmmm, not necessarily at others parenting skills, but more than anything at my own... Honestly I don't believe I am in line for the worst mom ever award, but I also know that there is no way any award team will be showing up at my door with a Mother of the year award any time soon either.
Out of all the interesting facts about our fast food dieting, lax parenting, and medicated kids that were presented, the one that got the old hamster wheel turning the most, was that Americans have a much different view on child rearing. You see, it would appear that us American parents have become a bit too lax in providing our children with a firm structure... Sadly, many of us American parents have become softies spoiling our children and caving to nearly every want. We have done away with spankings and the word NO, and because of this our children (mine included) are slowly becoming uncontroable, brats with no boundaries -- French parents believe that hearing the word "no" rescues children from the "tyranny of their own desires." And spanking, when used judiciously, is not considered child abuse in France -- Ouch! I must say that stings just a little.
Of course I have always been a pretty big advocate for spanking (I know, you aren't) but from spawn #1 to spawn #4 my own parenting skills have become more lax, and I am without a doubt guilty of caving in and letting baby spawn have a snack 30 minutes before dinner - what?!? You haven't seen his fits, award winning I swear! - but I still firmly believe in the word no... Does that mean I use it enough? Well, probably not, I guess like many other American moms I have been more concerned about being their friend. Of course my kids have some how managed to be pretty great kids and amazing students, but their attitudes... YIKES!!!
Perhaps that is one problem here in America? Many children were never told No, while growing up and therefore grow to become butt head adults who feel like they have some sort of narcissistic entitlement. Wow! I guess, that means that for me personally I better get a little better at saying NO, and sticking to it, because ..... Well I just don't want out of control, over medicated spawn who feel that they are entitled to the world. Of course, you as a parent are entitled to your own views on raising your kids, but remember the rest of the world has to deal with them when you are finished, so try telling them no every once in awhile, I promise it won't kill them... Besides, who wants to live in a world over run with spoiled butt heads??? Umm... yea... NOT me!
Have a good day bloggyland, and by the way ... NO! you can not have a cookie before dinner : )