Everyone knows that no self respecting person could possibly back down from a dare (well I can't anyway) even if the words "double dog" aren't used. Anyhow, Therese's dare went a little something like this... "Next post is a dare post. Post something CONTROVERSIAL, that you will (probably) never change your mind about" ok so did anyone else see how big those letters in the word controversial were? Maybe it's just me, but I think she wants me to participate in controversy, and of course she dared me, so I am thinking I must... However, I figured if I was going to set a spark, why not start an entire freaking fire. I mean why stop with one controversial topic, why not give my opinion on a few...
So incase you haven't already grasp the concept, this post has the likelihood to be highly controversial, and therefore may or may not be something that you want to read... As a matter of fact if you are uptight, bitchy, or mean perhaps you should just go right ahead and skip this post entirely!
So now that you have all been fairly warned, and given the chance to exit stage left... Let's proceed with current controversial topics, and my opinions (yes, they are only opinions) on them.
Firstly I thought that since I am of course a mom, I would start with sort of a controversial parenting topic like Spanking: My opinion is that America has gotten soft, and honestly there are not enough kids getting the spankings they need. Of course this does not mean that I believe that children should be spanked for every little thing, but I also do not believe that spanking will cause permanent mental scars, or emotional problems. I was spanked growing up, as a matter of fact all of my friends were too, and we are a generation much different than the generation we are currently raising. We were not mouthy brats who acted (or felt) as if the world and everyone in it owed us something. We learned that there were consequences for our bad behavior and those consequences were much stronger and harsher than a simple time out. Therefore we thought harder before making bad decisions. Does that mean that bad decisions weren't still made? Not at all, but they were given more thought and often times were not repeated. Also I feel I must say that when I was a child, you simply did not hear of children taking guns to school, or any of the other traumatic things that are happening in our schools these days.
Abortion: I am pro life. Does this mean that I condemn those who make the choice to have an abortion? Not at all. I personally feel that it is not my place to judge anyone for any reason. And, honestly I can personally see some cases where perhaps some people may feel as though abortion is their only choice (severe health issues, rape, incest)... However, I do not believe that abortion should be used purely as a form of birth control, especially when there are so many options, and ways to protect against pregnancy, and there are also many options (other than abortion) after pregnancy occurs. For me, my biggest reason for being pro life, is my son Dillion . When I was pregnant with him, many people including doctors tried to push abortion on me stating that Dillion would live mere minutes after birth at most. Assuring me that I was young, and could have other healthy children. However, if I would have caved to the pressures given to me by these people, my life would not have been blessed with the most amazing miracle ever, and I would have never gotten the opportunity to look into those beautiful eyes, or see that gorgeous smile.
Gay marriage: I know what the bible says, and fully comprehend it. I also personally do not understand why a gay couple would actually want to participate in a ceremony (such as marriage) which was built on a church/religion that only condemns them for there choice. That being said, I totally believe that every human should be afforded that same equal rights despite the way they choose to live their lives, or who they are in love with. Some of my best friends are gay, and they are some of the best people a person could know, and I personally feel they deserve all the same rights. For all of those who oppose gay marriage (or gay rights in general) first of all let me say "judge not lest ye be judged" and secondly, let me ask this... What if perhaps the roles were reversed? Besides, if they really want to be married, I say let them get married and be miserable like all the millions of straight couples in the world (that last statement was of course a joke - well mostly LOL!)
The right to bare arms (Gun rights): do I believe that guns should be banned? No, I do not. And honestly I have owned guns, and plan to own guns again. Of course I also do not feel there should be free rain on people being able to purchase a gun. If you have been convicted of a violent crime, or have been found to be an honest threat to yourself, or others... Well, you shouldn't own a gun. Do I feel that everyone should be neglected the right to own or carry guns simply because some lunatic may get ahold of one? Nope! besides the last time I checked forks didn't make people fat, and pencils didn't misspell words, so why would we ever believe that guns kill people? It is not guns which are the problem... People... People are the problem.
I think that perhaps that is enough controversial topics covered in one post, especially since I pretty much refuse to post on "Mommy war" topics like breast feeding, diapers, co-sleeping, etc. Since I believe that all those topics are pretty senseless considering we are all mothers and despite our personal choices should be raising each other up, and supporting each other.
So, now you have read what will most likely be the most controversial post you will ever read here on Mommy's Rambles, and my dare has been completed. So what do you think? What are your opinions on some of this seasons most controversial topics? Are any of you brave enough to pick up the torch and run with it? Come on now... I dare ya!!!